Have you experienced that sometimes you can just walk away from a situation. But you don't. You decide to stay. And later on you regret on that. There are just these random things that make you want to stay. And when you stay, everything gets all messed up and you start to regret that first decision. You think what would have happened if you'd have left? Or if you hadn't thought about it so seriously? Or if you hadn't cared at all? All these what-ifs sound so much better than the real scenario. But those are just some made-up fake theories. Just like fake fantasies.
Here's what you should do when you get dilemmas. I'm saying dilemmas because at that time we're not sure whether it's going to be good or bad. So here are some pointers.
1. Trust your Instinct:
I'm sure you must have heard this millions of times. When you're unsure about changing your job. When you're determined to get married. When you're writing an examination. It just about applies everywhere. When you're in a complicated situation with complicated people, you have two options. First; to try to understand them and get them out of their mess. Second; to move on and not give a damn about their lives. I know the first option seems very sensible and humane. The second one seems rather harsh and selfish. At times, the first option might get you within all the complications. So, why take that route at all? Unless it's absolutely necessary, there's no need to jump into the well. Just distance yourself from such things. Trust your instinct. Follow your gut feeling. And do what feels right.
2. Feel the Vibes:
Believe it or not but vibes are real. Some people just bring along positive vibes whereas some carry a negative vibe. It's evident by every thing they do. Right from how they carry themselves to how and what they speak. It's essential to understand those. Once you're on right track, it becomes easier to take a decision. I guess it's okay to fall into complications for people with positive vibes. Because you know that you'll be out of those. But there's no reason to make a fool of yourself by helping out negative vibed people. In this case, distancing yourself from them is based on your judgement of their vibes.
3. Past Experiences:
You may have to deal with similar situations or same persons. At such times, you have to remember your previous incidents with them. If they were unpleasant, just drop the topic and say no. If they were of any value, then go ahead to help them. After all, experience in such things can also save you from becoming a mad person.
The most important thing in these situations is learning how to say yes or no. If you truly believe in that situation or person, then there's no reluctance as such. The real deal is when you have to say no. Usually people don't like to say no. It comes off as selfish, egoistic and what not! Once you say no, people form an opinion about you which isn't good. But, you have to learn to say no. Remember that you have to think about yourself. Remember those instincts, vibes and experiences. Don't be hasty. It's perfectly all right to say no. Just distance yourself from all the crap around you and think about yourself, for once.